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A Day In The Life Of Being Traded || Part 2: House Hunting

There has been another step to being traded and that is house hunting! If you missed Part 1 of this series where I discussed the emotional aspect of being traded and shared my personal feelings, you can read that here. My emotions about the trade have settled down and I have mentally grasped the fact I will be moving from Memphis. Now I have that anxious feeling of finding a house that I can turn into our home.



Last week I was in Salt Lake City and I really enjoyed myself.  I was there to get a feel for my new town and to find a house for us to live in! I know this isn’t our permanent house but as long as I am living in Utah (or anywhere for that matter) I want to feel comfortable in the house and I want it to feel like a home. I want a great neighborhood, friendly and kind neighbors, Target, a grocery store and a Homegoods/Marshalls not too far away and a few more things on my list. I’m trying not to be too picky but our home in Memphis was just perfect. When I say I want to pick up the whole neighborhood and move it, I’m not kidding.

There are about 3 different neighborhoods we are hoping to find a house in. We did find a few houses that we really like and could work for us but we aren’t 100% sold. We want to see if anything else pops up. When I am looking at houses I am always thinking of the kids and our dog. If there are too many stairs or steps in the house or if there isn’t much grass in the backyard then it is not a house for us. Finding a good yard as been more challenging than I thought. Since most of the houses are in the mountains, the yards have retaining walls and are staggered which isn’t ideal for a dog to run and play or young kids for that matter.

Something new I learned about Salt Lake City is that the air quality can be poor. Mainly in the winter (January to be exact) when there are no storms to move the polluted air out and it settles in the valley between the mountains. A lot of people think dry dessert when they think of Utah and I always thought mountains. I’m not sure if I thought about dry or humid air and I definitely didn’t think about the air quality. I often think of LA with poor air quality and how you can see the smog when you fly into LAX. I’ll have to see if my throat and chest feel different during these times.

I’ll be back to discuss the actual moving process once we do find a house. Hope we find something soon!

The Breakdown:
I love that this dress looks like separates. Everytime I wear it people ask me where my skirt is from. It has been perfect for summer and can see it easily transition to fall. This white handbag is larger than it looks and can hold everything I need. I wear this dress all the time, often to the park, the zoo and out and about to the mall and stores. It’s easy to throw on and looks adorable with sneakers or sandals. This was my frist time wearing heels with it and I love how it turned out.

dress | Zara
bag | Cult Gaia ‘Astraea Tote’ (in black)
shoes | Alexander Wang (similar here)
earrings | Deepa by Deepa Gurnani ‘Kaiax Earrings
necklace | from Rowe Boutique
ring | Aurelie Biedermann 

Live votre rêve!

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A Day In The Life Of Being Traded || Part 1: Finding Out

being traded in the NBAThe waves were crashing, the sun was beaming and I was enjoying reading my book on the beach during my family’s annual vacation. My mom, sister and brother were near by and my brother informed me Michael got traded to the Utah Jazz. At that moment, my life was shook. Nothing had really changed but my mind started racing and I knew what was coming. I had known the trade was coming and we were pretty sure it was going to be to Utah but the known didn’t make it any easier. That’s the thing about being traded, it can happen at anytime. I did everything I could not to shed a tear because I knew if I started I wouldn’t be able to stop. Why was a I about to cry? Many reasons. being traded in the NBA being traded in the NBAbeing traded in the NBAThe first reason I wanted to cry was because I didn’t hear the news from Michael and he wasn’t there. Michael made it on the first part of the trip but had to get back home for workouts and training. This is how we have done my family’s vacation since day one and it works for us. We are good at being a part when we need to be but I start to go a little stir crazy if it’s more than a week. Even day 3, I start counting down the days. I miss my partner, my other half, my children’s father, it’s tough being away from your spouse. Now, I wanted to be with him more than ever to discuss this big life changing news and I still had 24 hours till we would be back together. The next day would be June 20th, NBA draft night and we thought the trade was going to happen than, not now when we were a handful of states away.

We knew a trade needed to happen for his career to grow. We had been talking about this moment since he was put on the trading block last February. I had moments with myself when I would cry at the thought of leaving my life in Memphis. Now I am definitely leaving Memphis and I can’t stop crying. It isn’t because I am not excited about moving to Utah. I am very excited and am grateful to move to this beautiful state. I plan on skiing and teaching my boys how to ski, going on hikes and being outdoors as often as possible. I am a huge nature girl, enjoy life at a slow pace and like to surround myself with nice people and I think I’ll fit in perfectly in Salt Lake City.

When I graduated college and planned on moving to Memphis it was really hard. I flew home often to visit my family and friends and every time I flew back to Memphis I cried. I missed my family so much and I wasn’t that happy in Memphis. I was 22 years old and had gone from college life of living with 5 girls to this NBA life, living with my boyfriend and his cousins. It was a very hard transition. I never moved growing up, my parents still live in the same house I was brought home to from the hospital. I did move away for college but since it was for college I new it was temporary. When I moved to Memphis I knew it was temporary too but we got lucky, I lived there for 10 years. Most players spend a contract, maybe 2, with one team, it’s common for guys to spend one season on multiple different teams. We were so fortunate to have had the opportunity to build a life in Memphis that I will be forever grateful for making it that much harder to leave.
being traded in the NBA


Not moving was an option. For me and and for our boys. It’s sad to say but a lot of these guys are traded so often it is too hard on the family to pick up and move everything every single time, especially if children are involved. Our children are young enough that they won’t be affected by this change but it still breaks my heart for Myles to leave his little friends he did make in Memphis. Staying in Memphis didn’t cross my mind. I have my foot in so many doors, I have built more relationships than I can count but I am going to do my best to build that again. For all of the friends I am leaving behind, I know I will stay in touch with them! I hope Utah has a kind blogging community and a fashion industry.

Something people outside of the NBA world don’t understand is how hard this is on the wife. I don’t recall seeing the “WAGS” on the MTV shows worrying about trades and moves. Maybe one here and there (I actually didn’t watch the show) but it happens a lot. Michael is moving for his job, he is going to be provided a team, friendships and a routine while I am following behind him to find my own friends and build relationships from the ground. These players spend more time with their team than they do with their family as it is. That’s just the way of this life. That’s why I was grateful to have loved my life in Memphis and the people who became family. 

This is Part 1 of a series of I don’t know how many. I will be taking you along this life changing journey to give you an inside look of what it’s really like to be a wife of an athlete.

Utah, here we come!
being traded in the NBA
being traded in the NBA

jacket | Prima ‘Double-Breasted Linen Jacket
tee | Free People (similar here and here)
shorts | Levi’s ‘Wedgie Shorts
shoes | Alexander Wang (similar here and here)
bag | Sole Society ‘Deona Woven Crossbody Bag
necklace | Uncommon James ‘Ready to Mingle
ring | Aurelie Biedermann ‘Esteban Ring’ (on SALE here)

Live votre rêve!